What We Teach Our Kids Vs. What We Did as Kids

Today as I was going through the various postings on “Facebook”, as I have a page and met up with several old friends and many “acquaintances” from my childhood, I came across a posting made by an old “acquaintance”.
They speak of “learning” a lesson at their current age that they are trying to teach their child. This is what was written: “Still working on learning the lesson myself I am teaching my daughter...when people aren't nice to you..they are not your friend and walk away...”
The lesson being: Just to learn to walk away when others are being mean or curl to you.
As I think back to my childhood, as I went to elementary school with this person as well as Junior High and High School; this person’s statement is so hypocritical that it makes me very upset to the point of being on the verge of angry and hurt.
Yes, I know the events that transpired many years ago and it shouldn’t bother me, as we are now adults and we should just, “Get over it!”
Well, the thing is, that as we grow up the things that happened to us by our peers, definitely effect us as adults.
So, to the events: This person who is “teaching” their child to just walk away because “when people aren’t nice to you” doesn’t realize that they were “that” person when they, themselves were in school.
I was new to the school and my family moved in the middle of a school year (5th grade) and to boot it was at a point where everyone in my “new” school had their “clicks” as they had been together since before kindergarten.
This person was in one of the of couple different “clicks” that would pursue and tease and humiliate those who were new to the school, me for example.
So, to tell your child to just walk away and ignore it is not as easy as it seems because the more you try to walk away or really just to ignore it, the worse it gets.
Now, in today’s world of being overly politically correct, we must now talk our way through any type of situation. I am not suggesting that the child should start a fight and establish that they won’t be bothered by the opposing party but for those involved need to look at the real underlying issues that are causing the problems.
This doesn’t always solve the problems but to the child who is being “bullied”, it may mean a lot.
So, next time your child or grandchild is being bullied or is the bully try to find out why, this could mean a lot in their lives.